Some people find fault like there is a reward for it.
Free from Self-Judgement
We need to suspend judgement on what seems to be right or wrong especially when trying to transform our lives. (So long as you are not breaking the law)
Eliminate the ‘should’
Once you decide you are transitioning to your best self, you then have to eliminate the ‘should’, ‘oughts’ and ‘musts’ in your vocabulary.
‘Shoulds’ are those things you have convinced yourself that you have to do, you gotta do, but really don’t want to.
These things just wear you out and drain you.
An examples would be;
“I should be making more money like everyone else”
“I ought to buy a bigger car”
“I must get married and have kids by 30”
That is just what you think, it is not necessarily what you want, the society probably told you so, and the media.
You get nowhere and waste a lot of energy with the ‘should’ time to ditch them and make more fulfilling goals and dreams. Nothing slows you down like the ‘should’, ‘oughts’ and ‘musts’
- A ‘should’ goal defers from a real goal, coaching helps you figure that out.
- One thing about coaching you don’t have to know from the outset what exactly you need to work on, hence my job is to help you find the answer within you. I will help you identify and calm the vague dissatisfied feeling that keeps nagging you to do better. As a bonus, save you from draining your energy on things that are not for you.
To be good, according to the vulgar standard of goodness, is obviously quite easy. It merely requires a certain amount of sordid terror, a certain lack of imaginative thought, and a certain low passion for middle-class respectability.
Reach out and get more goodies than you set out to get.
©Nicolle Hanselmann 2021