Search Results for “boundaries” – Life Lessons by Nicolle Hanselmann

Boundaries Matter

Why Boundaries Matter and How to Build Your Self-Confidence. “If you wish to be the king of the jungle, It’s not enough to act like a king. You must be the one & only king. Sadly there can be no room for any form of doubt. Because doubt causes chaos that leads to one’s own demise” -From The…
Get Them Off-They Are Not Your People

Get Off.. Getting the balance right between give and take in any relationship is a pickle. It is one of the biggest causes of discontentment. One of the hardest thing that we ever have to do in life, is to accept that not everyone needs to be in our journey. Yes, some people just have…
Blindspots

Judging Others Funny how we tend to forget that we all have blindspots. So easy, to judge others based on the things that they can’t see for themselves, those things that seem ‘obvious’ to us. ” I give up, you mean they can’t see how they’re sabotaging and blocking their lives?” We retort. Here is…
Have You Experienced Schadenfreude

Schadenfreude Are some of us guilty of schadenfreude?* You know we all sometimes do things for the strangest of reasons. Factors that may seem as strong motivators to us, may turn us into silent monsters. Simple things such as pursuit of money can turn out to be empty and shallow but gets worse when we…
Same Script, Different Cast- Forgiveness

Writer’s Block. I couldn’t help but imagine how a well established writers feel when they hit the dreaded writer’s block. They do have a lot of things riding on it, their reputation, their earnings, passion, hobby, the list goes on n on… I have been writing a 4-part series of the plight of the diaspora in…
Establish Your Relationship Priorities-Ubuntu

Without a family, man, alone in the world, trembles with a cold. -Andre Maurois I sat there in awe, listening attentively as Faith told her story with such bravery. (I must confess, I have this habit of wanting to help my friends, it is just a thing. I had to ask my mentor whether it was…
Positive Attitude-I Can’t See My Own Label from Inside The Jar

I found this article useful and would like to share it again on here. It is a lovely reminder on staying positive even in times of trouble. I Can’t See My Own Label from Inside The Jar. What seems nasty, painful, evil, can become a source of beauty, joy and strength, if faced with an…
Building Healthy Relationships

Relationships “Love and work… Work and love, that is all there is.” Sigmund Freud. Work and love are the two most significant aspects of human experience. We were engineered to have the need to love and to be loved. Our quest in life is impacted by how much we love and feel loved. Relationships fall…
10 things I learnt in 2020

Today, I reflect on some of things I have learnt in the year of COVID-19 ( about myself, people and success) Beauty is all around me. Things change really fast. Vulnerability is bravery. People will disappoint you. Energy vampires will suck you dry. Know Your People. Happiness is a choice. Let Go, Let God. Gratitude…
Identify Your Emotional Needs

Know what your needs are. Emotional needs are what you must have fulfilled in order to be your best self. There is a general assumption that all our needs are the same, but this is far from the truth, we all have different needs and function differently. Even the strong and independent amongst us. One…