As mothers most of us will see her as the 15-16-17 yr old girl she is. But sadly some people will see a woman depending on how developed her curves seem.
Some will want her for all the wrong reasons.
She is faced with 3 humanly response.
Fight, Flight or Freeze
Fight back until they see her as a “fellow man” that never needs them. So they end up leaving her alone. She then remains too strong for too long. Vulnerability becomes her worst enemy. Build on her own, demolish on her own, cry on her own…
Flight, flee from all of them, the good ones and the bad ones too. Never engage, never get a chance to love or be loved.
And then we have…
Freeze, stay put and do nothing. No flinching and get the abuse. Never fighting back, never speaking up, until she eventually loses her voice, forever.
All these are just natural responses known to humanity since the beginning of time.
When a girl starts discovering herself and the change in her body, she risks being prey to human vultures. How then she acts depends on all of us as a society, this is down to us people.
WHY be involved?
What can you teach her? ( Learn about gender equality)
How can she cope and with what tools?
Your role and responsibility in all this?
We do have a solution, it is called female empowerment. Empower her to be emotionally intelligent. Teach her when to run and when to hide, when to stay and watch things unfold. Give her the tools to play her role in life with confidence and ‘like a badass’ she is. Enable her to spot and know that all attention isn’t good attention. Attention doesn’t necessarily translate to love, right?
Rock being a badass
Just because someone is showering you with all the attention you never had, doesn’t mean the person loves you. Some are just socio-paths, topic for another day. Never confuse attention with love.
Teach her on how to judge all cases, individually, to reconnect with her instincts…
…to tell apart, to study, to be aware of self and the environment around her.
Give her the right tools and information for her to know that she has full control. Control isn’t somewhere out of reach, it is not mystical. She is the driver of her life, she should never doubt that. And when things go wrong like they sometimes do, she has it within herself to gain back power, because no-one can take it from her without her permission.
All about choice…
She can choose how to handle the situation(s) ….and herself.
Use her gifts to uplift others and be of great contribution to the society.
Yes, she can be a child, of course she still is, but still own it like a boss.
Dedicated to a young person I know who is becoming a victim of yet another misguided attention.
©Nicolle Hanselmann 2021
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